I have had family members who never were jw extend themselves a bit to help out emotionally and support us. But I haven't filled the void. My heart feels like a long empty hallway, and I hear the echo of only my own shoes as I walk through.
kitten whiskers
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How do you replace a family?
by YoursChelbie inas a result of wanting to have a normal life, away from the dogma of the jw religion,.
many have lost contact with parents, children and in many cases, their spouse.. my divorce was uncontested and i was fortunate enough to get out of from watchtower control with my children.
my parents were never involved with the religion,.
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Crazy JW chaperon Stories
by superman inthe jw's must not trust their members or at least don't have too much faith in them when it comes to being alone around member of the opposite sex.
i can remember one time in particular from when i was a teenager that still makes me laugh today.. when i was younger i used to go out in service on a regular basis during the week when i had summer break.
one time when i met for service there were only two other people that showed up.
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kitten whiskers
Oh God! We were bashed for not having a chaperone. What are you to do when everyone else in your circle that you chaperoned is married and unwilling to do it for you? Our own parents even got sick of chaperoning and refused to do it, but would counsel us on it!
A dear friend, so I thought, I was her maid of honor...said she couldn't be in our wedding due to finances. I talked to my hubby (fiance') and he agreed to pay for her dress so that I could have the pleasure of her being in the wedding party. Then it hit the fan that the real reason wasn't money, but because we had gone somewhere unchaperoned. Good grief. Her chaperone was her little sister whom they would trick to go away and give them privacy! But we were wicked. For some reason she had no problem attending the wedding though.
My own sister (my only sibling) refused to be in the wedding or show up either for the same reason.
It's funny how quick they are to judge, but how easily they refuse to help you keep the "standards".
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You know what I really miss?
by journey-on inthis sounds silly.
but what i miss about being a part of a close knit congregation is the showers.
i loved going to the bridal showers, baby showers, wedding showers.
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kitten whiskers
LOL at HintofLime! The only time to relax socially was to help a sister sell to the others and have a little party! LOL!
I was washing the last Pampered Chef pot I have left yesterday, thinking about the sister who organized getting the set for me as new bride! I don't know if I can let that last one go and replace it!
No, you're not shallow. You miss friends and kids and the whole circle. Even when you felt on the outskirts, you were still usually invited and shared others joy with them. It was our "holiday"! I miss being able to pick up something cute for a baby to have for some new little one coming! No reason to now. I don't hardly know anybody!
I think it was kind of a "small town" feel. They were the only ones we could socialize with, and therefore meant a great deal to us. Even though we were thrown away later! It's that sense of community. I miss it too.
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Super serious question
by 5thGeneration inplease no sarcastic crap from mean members.. i had a family member kill herself over being raised by a c.o.
who told her that it ruined their life and that she was a mistake.. i have a 10 page report from a psychiatrist back, who was also a jw, in the eighties that is pretty incredible.. now, i was also born jw with a 100 year "truth" heritage to cause me the same guilt.. and it may be drivng me the same way.
i feel the same way my aunt felt.
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kitten whiskers
I wish you all the healing in the world!
I have no book to recommend, but I think if you believe in heaven, you can be sure that your relative from a hundrend years ago believed they were going, and wouldn't recognize the organizaion you are leaving as the one they joined! Maybe they and your dear aunt are helping lead you out.
I wonder that about my grandpa after he died. That was when we really started having more doubts and there was a feeling of an angel and a demon fighting over our household! I wonder if God sent him to fight for us and help break us free. Keep fighting. You can overcome this!
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JW's feel God will destroy all those involved with the military, but when a crisis hits and they come to the rescue, they become a Godsend.
by kitten whiskers injust had to laugh and shake my head today.. hubby's cousin, an ex-jw too, keeps in touch really well with his folks who are still in.
they moved south to kentucky to where the need was greater along with some others from our old congregation.
one couple, very well loved and sweet as pie, moved to south america to where the need was great again.. recently, the husband, was attacked and beaten nearly to death.
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kitten whiskers
Just had to laugh and shake my head today.
Hubby's cousin, an ex-jw too, keeps in touch really well with his folks who are still in. They moved south to Kentucky to where the need was greater along with some others from our old congregation. One couple, very well loved and sweet as pie, moved to South America to where the need was great again.
Recently, the husband, was attacked and beaten nearly to death. They put him in a coma at the hospital and feared there would be brain damage from the severity of the beating. There is some, but he recognizes people, I'm not sure of the full extent of the injuries. But in conversation with hubby's cousin today, he mentioned this old friend had made it back to the states. How? The injured man's nephew is in some branch of the military and demanded a Leer jet (spelling?) from his commander to be sent and retrieve his uncle back to the states. I don't know how he did it, but he did. His uncle is now in Florida. No doubt to everyone's relief (he has 2 grown children here and lots of non-jw family).
I just had to think of how much they owe their nephew and the military for his transport. He shouldn't have been in that country anyway...but that's beside the point. Can you imagine...as a jw, the conciencious decision you would have to make? How you would justify boarding the military jet...really, wanting nothing to do with them, but twisiting it in your mind to probably soothe your conscience that this was a provision from Jehovah? That he uses the governments for his people? But as a JW we never once prayed for those folks serving to help and protect.
A whole other view from the opposite side of the fence, isn't it?
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1 year sober today...it can be done!
by digderidoo injust wanted to post here to say i am now 1 year sober.
funny thing is i don't miss drink at all, it took a 3 or 4 months of hard work about 18 months ago and have not looked back since.. this is my first thread about the aa, posted january 2008.. http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/150354/1/went-to-aa-meeting-last-night.
i would encourage anyone who thinks they may have a problem to get help, it is out there.. since i have become sober i am now doing a law degree, took up scuba diving, got my kids involved in snorkelling, scuba, horse riding and shooting.
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kitten whiskers
Congratulations! I like the Snoopy happy dance...I'm doing it too!
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I hate the CO
by superman inso i was talking to my mother the other day, and she was distressed because she was saying that if my little sister isn't baptized or working toward it by the time she's 18 (which is coming up soon) she may have to move out (more then likely she'll move in with me and my girlfriend, or my older sister if that happens).
my little sister is a great kid (high honor roll, no trouble, hard worker, etc), that many parents would be grateful to have.
i asked my mom, why would they take parenting advice from a guy who doesn't (and hasn't) ever had kids?
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kitten whiskers
I've seen elders step down for this very reason! Even if they had a disfellowshipped child living at home (an adult) who was moving toward reinstatement. He had to choose. It's a sad fact.
Billy the ex quotes the principle they use. If he can't preside over his own household, he's not setting a good example for the flock. End of story.
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kitten whiskers
Please don't take that as an insult to you. You only asked a question...my answer is no. I don't drink, therefore I am not drunk.
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kitten whiskers
I abhor anyone who drives while intoxicated. It's always the drunken idiot who walks away from the accident...not the innocent party. It ruins anothers life and for what?
This is a hot topic for me. If you drive drunk, or buzzed or whatever you want to call it...I hope you get caught and the book thrown at you.
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Blondie's Comments You Will Not Hear at the 05-03-09 WT Study (LAMB)
by blondie inevidence of god's confidence in the anointed, who "keep following the lamb no matter where he goes.
16 "my sheep listen to my voice," said jesus, "and i know them, and they follow me.
what shows that jesus christ completely trusts the slave class?
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kitten whiskers
That scripture in John in the first paragraph is the one that freed me.
Crying and praying, God let me see that that scripture had been misapplied to the FDS for so long! They use it over and over. It is ingrained in your sub conscious. But one day, I realized the word "Whom". It's not "Where". It's Jesus. That simple. What a flood of emotion as I realized I had taken the first step to walking out. The spell was broken.
Hopefully, their use of it once again, will take hold in another individuals heart and lead them away too.